Art Speaks (and Artists Listen)

This week I recited a new poem at a unique spoken word event. Chicago art gallery Vibrant Cast invited me to write a poem inspired by a specific work of art. I was randomly assigned Kyle Barron’s brilliant photograph, The Last Stop. I did not meet Kyle until the evening of the event so the poem was based entirely on my own imagination and assumptions, albeit inspired by Kyle’s extremely vivid and skillful composition.

You can see and purchase more of Kyle’s work and that of other talented local artists (including my wife, painter and poet Debra Rodriguez) at Vibrant Cast’s website: https://vibrantcast.com/

I was extremely fortunate to have such an evocative image as my inspiration. The event was, without hyperbole, one of the best evenings of my life. My poem was well received, which is always gratifying but I also had the distinct pleasure of meeting Kyle. Though we work in different media we have a lot in common

The day also happened to be my daughter’s birthday. She and Debra are subtly featured in a few lines of the poem, much of which is sort of a fictionalized autobiography.

It was also a bittersweet event as many of us remained worried and grieving about the disaster in Los Angeles. The next day was a real tangle of emotions as I enjoyed the afterglow of my success while absorbing the horror of the fires. If you are able to donate or volunteer in support of the people left homeless please don’t hesitate. Social media is emphasizing the celebrities who have lost their homes but we need to remember that most of the victims are ordinary Americans who simply need to survive and care for their families.

Here’s the poem I read that evening:

Time is a Tendency Toward Nonbeing

You can see the municipal impound lot from the moving train

Most are short-term visitors 

With inscrutable greasy crayon numbers

written on their windows

Some are wrecks that won’t ever leave under their own power

Is a car still an automobile if it doesn’t move?

We make things and nature reclaims them  

Rust rot and gravity conspire 

to reduce compounds and constructions

Back to base molecules and elements 

Time is the undoing of all things 

Less a real thing than the yardstick or the sundial

Or the supposedly sempiternal soul

But for objects, even the objects of pride and desire

No amount of care and cleverness 

Can make a thing eternal or everlasting 

It’s not a child or a kitten or a sunflower seedling 

Growing in invisible increments 

A team in canvas gloves, overalls, and goggles 

Takes a pile of constituent parts, 

Metal, plastic, leather, rubber

And in just hours, or a day or two they make a little van

The little bus is parked as if posing

In a building that could be an insurance agency 

Or a retail store

The floors waxed to a high sheen

The salesmen at their metal desks 

Unsoiled tires, chromium hubcaps 

Glossy enamel flirting with the light  

No dirt, no scratches nor dents 

Headlights bright and unclouded

Bumpers reflecting the incandescent bulbs overhead

Flat-faced, forward control with a four-cylinder engine

And a two-digit number on the odometer

Anxiously, impatiently a young couple negotiates

Finally signing papers and taking the key and a spare 

The sticker price of the 1967 Volkswagen Transporter Bus is $2,667

A vertiginous, dizzying number

Ten percent of the value of their house, 

Nearly half a year’s salary  

He doesn’t love the color

Orange with a vanilla ice-cream top  

A little unmanly

Dismiss your appetite for hippy stuff, rock-and-roll, or psychedelics

it is a family car

They love it but not in the way you love a person

For a while it is the preferred conveyance 

For family vacations, Big Sur, The Grand Canyon, Yellowstone 

When issues of reliability and parental prudence collide

It’s swapped for an American-made sedan

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A lean shivering man shoves gloveless hands into a coat pocket 

January is a hell of a time to buy a car 

He’s impulsive, twenty-two  

The salesman in a green plaid overcoat   

Smiles broadly and strokes a voluminous icicled mustache 

For two days they drive in shifts 

From a cold Midwestern city to the golden west 

They spend their last few dollars on antifreeze and oil 

They have no particular reason to move to California 

Other than it is other-than 

He finds an office job, accounts payable 

She paints and works in a shop  

They live in the basement in-law apartment

of a craftsman bungalow 

Cold and damp with a concrete floor  

For a while they share it with a rat 

But the landlord is good enough to hire an exterminator

A seven-pound girl is born 

On an unusually cold Bay Area morning 

He scrapes frost from the microbus’ windshield at three AM

She rushes into the world taking the parents and the doctor, 

In her muumuu and Birkenstocks, by surprise

They find a better apartment in the Oakland hills

With a garage for the microbus  

Baby scoots on the hardwood floors 

She begins to use the coffee table to support her fat little legs  

One day she lets go of the table and wobbles toward her father

Her first word is kitty – it sounds like “gee-gee”

They buy their own little bungalow in the Berkeley flats 

(It will reach a value of over a million dollars

in the early 21st century) 

Office mates are leasing Beamers and Benzes 

But he can’t give up the van

it grows rustier and burns more oil 

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Blood-red paint peels then disappears altogether 

From the bungalow’s front porch  

A latch rusts away so the gate swings wildly on its hinges

Allowing the yellow mongrel to escape again

He shuffles unaided through the neighborhood calling her name

He never fixes the gate  

The odometer hits a six-figure number 

A couple of guys from the Home Depot parking lot

Help him roll the microbus into the backyard

(to avoid parking tickets and the impound lot)

It never rolls again 

The tires pancake

Field mice make a home under the hood and in the upholstery

Oxygen and water make a meal of the steel 

(The rust may seem random but in fact there’s a pattern)

The driver’s side door wants to swing open 

So it’s secured with a bungee cord

threaded through a broken window

Stingray, a lesser-known album by Joe Cocker 

Is jammed, now unplayable

In an aftermarket 8-track tape player

Though the tires are rife with organic material 

It’s an object. It has no soul

Though a product of intelligence, it has none of its own 

(built before onboard computers were commonplace) 

But it is suffused with the cells and DNA of its occupants  

And it is a catalyst for human memories, 

Those imperfect distended pictures

For decades it rests and rolls on concrete and tarmac

Tires taut with pressure

Sidewalls once waxy and gleaming 

Now pebbled and pitted with rust

Soil and grass beneath wheels that are not wheels

Nature takes the elements back

Iron that was once inside the earth

Rubber that was once inside a tree

It will probably be hooked to a tow truck

Hauled away to be dismantled or crushed

But it could remain here without utility

If we are patient and can wait

For time, nature, and inevitability

To absorb and erase this thing.

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An Insurance Underwriter in Late-stage Hypothermia

I’m huddled in an Anchorage doorway

The Alaska autumn feels like a Chicago winter 

I’ve been evicted from the least and latest 

in a series of disreputable hotels 

I had a home, a mortgage and a warm bed

Now owned I suppose by the bank

Who can attend to bills and trivial chores

While chasing an infinite singularity, the very essence of pleasure?

She was a malpractice risk, this physician 

A nearly uninsurable headshrinker

She scoffed at the FDA, the DEA and the AMA

But she built this thing that makes us remember 

I’m the insurance man, skeptical and cautious

I had to be convinced, cajoled, finally seduced

By this compact, elegant mad scientist 

Graceful in her chignon, eyeglasses and Chanel suit

As a matter of research, or so I told myself 

I tried the machine under the influence of a mild barbiturate 

An electrode adhered to each temple

Attached to an inscrutable device hidden in the skin of an old PC

She escorted me backwards through my time

Reliving memories first recent then remote

Middle aged disappointments, youthful excesses 

The confusion, delights and privations of childhood 

A consignment store suit at a garden wedding…

My lips on hers, my hand on her breast

A broken balsa wood airplane 

Bicycle accidents, cicadas and golf balls 

But remembering was no mere revery

Nothing like those pillow-talk confessions 

Clearly, distinctly, vividly, I repeated my life in fast rewind 

I became un-graduated, re-virginzed, detumescent, un-sober

Aromas, sensations, grief and joy relived 

With immediate and unalloyed verisimilitude 

This was no petite madeleine 

This was time-travel into perfectly preserved memories 

Human entities have a beginning 

And I found mine, the bliss of mother’s womb 

The first and only experience of perfect safety

A proto-orgasmic opioid state of perfection 

The terror, the light, the cold

The shock of becoming out of nothing 

The heartbeat, the warmth, the liquid darkness 

The heartbeat the blameless void

Then came oblivion and wakefulness 

In the afterglow she secured certain contracts and promises

I was her spaniel; suffused in oxytocin  I agreed to it all

Having made these decisions in a state of impairment,

of course I was fired

Coming down, it was like coming apart 

Remembering the remembering I ached for another taste

I paced the floors, stopped eating stopped sleeping 

Stopped opening the mail, ignored the bills

Unencumbered by marriage or employment 

I sought her out and begged for another trip

Conveniently finding her ethics she refused

Refused to “enable my addiction”

Doctor too suffered deserved reversals

Hospital privileges, medical licenses revoked

She became an itinerant Svengali 

Moving from state to state as the authorities pursued her

I followed her and spent my way to ruin

She refused me

In Kentucky, Texas, Utah, and Alaska

Finally making my home in this, the doorway of her clinic

Cruelly I’m denied the edenic womb

But the shivering has subsided 

I am warm again, slightly elated, strangely optimistic 

Shedding my boots, my flannel, and my parka, 

Naked as a newborn 

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Nothing, Personal

The most revolting thing

I can imagine is

My livid floppy corpse maybe bloated 

Probably pale

Made up as if for Madame Tussaud’s

Embalmed 

Resisting its return 

In a metal and concrete cocoon 

If you wanna visit, use your memory 

Or don’t and just forget me

Please burn it or let it rot

The worms and weevils 

are as deserving as anyone 

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10/21/21

None of us are sleeping well. 

I’m near my mother’s bedside at a hospice in the south suburbs of Chicago.  About two months ago I inserted myself into my mom’s care.  My older sister had been her primary caregiver but had a health crisis of her own.  

She has dementia, Alzheimer’s I assume though we never got a definitive diagnosis because about six weeks later we took her to the emergency room where she was diagnosed with colon cancer.  The cancer is well advanced and has metastasized.  She had two surgeries to repair her colon and suffered a stroke after the 2nd surgery.  She is now in hospice with perhaps a few days or weeks to live.

Before we discovered the cancer I was anxiously trying to mange her care, sometimes with the help of my siblings and sometimes on my own.  I was completely at sea.  I found the Illinois Department of Aging website which referred me to Catholic Charities.  After encountering busy signals and unattended voice mail boxes they promised to arrange an assessment but then never followed up.  But the cancer made care for her dementia almost entirely moot.

Now we are waiting for her to die.  There is no hope for recovery.  The objective is a relatively painless death.  And what is hard to admit is that we are eager for the end.  The person we knew is gone, dementia has already taken her from us.  Without morphine and Ativan she would be in agony.  She can neither drink nor eat.  Per her wishes, (expressed when she was competent) she is receiving “comfort care” which means only oxygen and lots of morphine.  

The stroke has rendered her unable to talk so in her rare moments of consciousness she only moans and gestures with the one hand that still works 

Still, she hangs on and I do too.  I don’t know why I’m here.  She probably doesn’t know I’m here but I keep coming back

Most of us only have one mother so we endure this just once each lifetime.  My father died about 22 years ago, quite suddenly.  I lived in California at the time and couldn’t be present when he passed from a heart attack in a hospital emergency room.  That was comparably easier.

My in-laws died several years ago after agonizingly long illnesses (ALS, prostatic cancer, Parkinson’s). I loved them and helped as much I could with their care but they were not MY parents.  This is different.  Each day in this hospice I compare the birdlike emaciated woman in the bed with the mother who raised me.  She was the manger of our household.  She had a sense of humor.  She was kind.  She was not given to drama nor self-indulgence.  She could be severe but was never cruel to us. She was my platonic form of strength and now, what remains of her is entirely weak.  Of course I know that we will all decline and die unless we are taken by violence or accident but my childish mind is rebellious.  It will take time to reconcile this.

I’m conscious of self-pity and feel ambivalent about indulging it.  I don’t know why but I am at my weepiest when people show me sympathy.  When I’m alone with my grief I can generally keep my eyes dry.

I really started grieving months ago when I faced her decline from dementia.  Having learned that mom hadn’t seen her doctor in a few years I arranged an appointment.  I drove her to the medical center to see the doctor, to the lab for blood and urine and finally to the hospital for X-rays of her arthritic hip.  When we returned home we were both exhausted but she was also confused and frightened.  She forgot why we were at the hospital.  She told me she could feel her mind going, that it was like she was another person floating above the old person.  My old mother was not given to figurative language.  I went home dispirited and depressed.  I wanted to help her but I felt that I’d accomplished nothing.  Her appetite had been waning and we were finally alarmed enough to pester her doctor about it.  He advised the trip to the ER where we learned of the cancer.

I want to think of this as a remarkable, singular experience but it’s quite common.  Mom is 81 years old, that’s an almost perfectly average life span for a modern woman.  No one is spared.  My experience is unique I suppose but not special.  I try to be careful not to become addicted to sympathy and attention.  It’s a temptation.

She was an unpretentious woman.  Call her Pat, not Patricia, better yet Mom. She was a mom.  Even when dementia took most of her memory she never forgot that she had raised six children.  

Why are we here?  Does she know that we are here?  I don’t know but the thought of her dying alone seems improper.  We are here to soothe her on the rare occasions that she regains consciousness.  I’m afraid that, because of the dementia, each time she wakes up this place seems strange.  I’ve been here for a few hours today and she has not yet awoken.  She has moaned in her sleep a few times and stirred briefly.  Two of my sisters have been here with me and we don’t have much to say to each other.  It’s not an awkward silence; it’s just that we’ve talked about mom constantly for the past few weeks and we are done now.  We are tired and there is nothing more to talk about except traffic and weather and how we’re not sleeping well.

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10/16/2021

Waiting for my daughter to bathe and dress

I’m in the garden

It’s autumn and I’m harvesting and hacking 

Taking peppers and tomatoes and eggplant 

Then uprooting and tossing the foliage 

We’ll never eat it all; we have to give it away

Two days ago Mom went from hospital to hospice 

Last time I saw her she was unconscious 

Her mouth open

Her right arm moved reflexively as if to tease us with feathery hope 

The left is useless but remained warm and alive

I slept well for the first time in days

Did good work, the sweet peppers, eggplant and chiles are fully dispatched 

put a dent in the tomato forest

Beanstalks will wait another day

She texts “I’m ready” we drive to a convention center

She is in cosplay regalia with earbuds implanted

I command the car to play Sinatra and I sing along 

“Fly me to the moon…”

(If she is embarrassed it’s my right to embarrass but she probably can’t hear)

Admiring his technique but more so his brio 

I drop her off

Still forgetful on the way home

I’ve switched to Tony Bennet

When I notice that I’m happy and how rare that is

Grief slips in for a moment, a shudder like a haunting or possession (if I believed in such things)

I don’t resent the grief because it has rough edges

I understand it.  

It’s the most normal thing about me

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10/08/2021

My mother is sick and I can’t fix her

I worked hard at gardening today

It was too hot for my long chinos 

but I wanted to avoid scratches and insect bites on my legs

I transplanted the echinacea and cleaned up weeds and dead flowers 

I wanted to quit but the coneflowers had already been uprooted 

So I pushed on and gave them a new home on the parkway. 

Eventually I found my flow

I picked a few things, hatch peppers, bell peppers, tomatoes and beans

I’m not young.  This wasn’t easy.  

My medication makes me dizzy when I stand

Rising from the weeding I’d stagger and reel

Take a breath, close my eyes and continue 

I ate scrambled eggs with bell peppers 

Tomorrow I’ll call my mother’s doctor

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12/24/17

12/24/17
It is cold enough that my hands gloved in gore-Tex are numb after 10 minutes. I push the looped handle of Mabel’s leash up to my wrist and shove my hands in my pockets. After 20 minutes she is still keen to nuzzle the ground searching I guess, for traces of excrement and I know for discarded fast food wrappers. I wonder if I should have made her wear boots and a coat but she is unfazed by the weather. Coats and boots for dogs are like seat belts and car-seats for toddlers, unheard of when I was a boy but now one runs the risk of reproach. Probably not but I reproach myself anyway.

The houses here are mostly small sturdy bungalows bearing improvised improvements like vinyl fencing and cast paving stones piled up without masonry to make planters and borders around trees. I hate the phoniness and uniformity of these non-bricks, non-stones. I prefer the less common random boulders that are not purchased from a corporate home improvement store but hauled in on a borrowed pickup truck from some bucolic exurb or boutique nursery.

We’re approaching the used car lot at Fullerton & Menard and the traffic noise intrudes on the NPR newscast in my headphones. She actually sits and waits for the light to change. The snow has started but sidewalks remain bare except for a random brown sack that skitters by, impelled by the wind. It’s Sunday but also Christmas Eve; for now the neighborhood feels static, resting and anticipating.

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The Aliens Were Assholes

The aliens were assholes but they were good at solving problems. One of the first things they did was to improve the timing of traffic lights so the flow of cars was smoother and drivers spent less time at red lights. They claimed that the system was based on detailed census data and records hacked from the dmv. In fact it was a complex mind control device using pheromones and sound waves. Does it matter that they lied? Everyone got to work on time.

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Unrhymed Sonnet

We turn up our collars or mop our brows ,
Seal up the windows, force air cool or hot
Our purses are thinned by nameless men
Who own the vast machines that drill the earth.

We are warned of a grim future askew
When the frozen is melted, up is down
But how can we who live for fleet delights
Sacrifice Now for unnamed grandchildren?

We turn up our dials but tune out the news
Seal away our minds against all doubts
We open our purses to repel the gloom
But we are spending more than paper notes

We can hope for children are rebellious
They’ll awaken to our abdication

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Experimenting with Shakespearean Sonnets: Another Form of Prose Procrastination

Yes,  I’ll admit my resolve is weakening or is already broken.  I can’t summon the will to finish my little story. 

Yesterday at a meeting at my daughter’s high school I chatted with her English teacher about a recent assignment requiring the students to write sonnets.  Apparently they found it difficult to work within the technical requirements of an English Sonnet.

I’ve nearly always written free verse.  My knowledge of the history of poetry goes only as far back as Whitman.  I always found contemporary rhyming poems trite and amateurish.  But lately I’ve decided to try my hand at sonnets, thinking perhaps that I should know the rules before I commit to breaking them.  Following are two sonnets, written more or less strictly according to the Shakespearean  convention.  My objective in each case was simply to adhere to the formal structure.

Experimental Sonnet #1

Anger, cynicism, tempting and vile,

Drive me to starve and stab self in spite.

Convinced, proud and righteous but all the while,

Depriving self for ironic “right”.

Superior, stubborn I hold the ground,

Convinced I must teach the lesser.

Only much too late do I hear the sound,

And kneel to my mind’s confessor

How did I come to love the taste of gall,

When of milk I might have partaken?

Pride rushes mindless to embrace the pall,

The future, the self is forsaken.

The light of love, hush of serenity

Found within, a joyful solemnity

 

Marina

Her face can shine like a milky moonbeam

Or defiant of nature fall dark

Giggling with glee over a madcap meme

Or plotting to revenge some small mark

Her courtesy could be called boundless

But for remarkable exceptions

When her wrath, clear, cold and never soundless

Explodes with expletive eruptions

When she is good, no stranger to kindness

Protector of the weak and aggrieved

When she is angry, given to blindness

Reason’s calm plea she fails to believe

But without darkness we’d not love the light

Her darkest, fell moods give way to delight

 

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